Will I Regret Decluttering?

One of the worries that people have sometimes is; 

Will I regret decluttering? 

They remember that time when they got rid of that dress, and they’ve then just thought about it for years since that moment;

“Oh I wish I hadn’t got rid of it. 

That was a beautiful dress. 

I could have worn it to this event, or that event” 

And yes that can happen, I’m not going to deny that. 

There is a chance you may get rid of something that later on you think 

I really wish I still had that” 

However, I often liken it to a story that I heard once, about people who smoke. 

They’ll say; “I knew this guy Bert, and he smoked for like 60 years, 40 Woodbine’s a day, and he never got cancer”  

It’s the one in a million that we hang on to sometimes. And this can definitely be the same for decluttering. 

Now I know how good it makes people feel when they’ve done it. 

I know what a difference it makes in people’s lives. 

And to hang on to that one time, that what you got rid of that you may have needed again, as opposed to all the times, (that you’re not going to remember), when you got rid of loads and loads and loads of stuff and never ever needed them again.

It’s a bit like hanging on to the guy who never got cancer when you smoke. 

It’s the exception to, rather than the rule. 

I’m not going to promise you that you’re not gooing to get rid of something that you’re may want later on. There may well be that chance. But if you weigh it up, what is the cost of that, versus the the actual gain in getting rid of all the rest of the stuff? 

If you looked at a room and said from 100 items that you are going to get rid of, maybe one of those you might need again. 

What’s the worst that can happen? 

You could always buy it again when you need it. 

Now, if it’s a hugely expensive item then you’re probably going to think a bit more about whether or not you are going to be getting rid of it. But actually if it’s a dress,you can always go to a charity shop, like I do, and you’ll find something different. I’ve done it myself and I’ve found something possibly even better. 

I firmly believe in getting rid of the old, to make way for the new to come in. 

So the other thing to ask yourself about that is;

“Am I hanging on to an old memory? 

An old time? 

An old bit of my life, where and when I felt really good?”

And maybe that item symbolizes that moment in time. 

But getting a new one can then enable you to have plenty more, new good times, and to move on from that to better things. 

So really would you really regret it anyway? 

Please don’t let it hold you back. 

One of the most important things is moving on, so will you regret it? 

I hope not. 

Why do we get chilled out when we go to hotels?

Why do we get chilled out when we go to hotels? 

I’ve come away this weekend and immediately as soon as I got into the hotel room I just went “ahh”. It was ever so lovely, it was a really nice calm space and I just relaxed immediately.

It made me really think about my space at home and what stuff I’ve got in it to be honest. Because I come here and there’s very very little in the room. I mean there’s a beautiful plant, there’s a desk, there’s a lamp, there’s things like that. But because there’s very little around me, I do feel a sense of calm. 

I think this is something that we can try and bring into our homes.

So we have (I have, I can only talk for myself really and the people that I see) quite a lot of ornaments, quite a lot of things around. Actually when I’ve got here I’ve realised that maybe, maybe they’re just crowding me a little bit. 

I’ve got a feeling that when I get home I just want to clear out now, just get rid of some of this stuff. Not necessarily get rid of it, one of the great tricks with ornaments is to actually you can rotate them round. 

We pick up lots of things when we’re out and about in the world, traveling, we get lots of different things that we pick up. And actually what we can do is have all of those things, but just not have them out at the same time. 

There’s this real great urge to kind of put all of our things out and have all those memories around us. 

Actually I get blind to them. 

So because that picture has been on the wall there for ages, I kind of don’t see it anymore. And because that little ornament has been there for the same amount of time, I don’t see it anymore. 

Actually coming away makes me sort of think. When I get back it makes me look at things a little bit differently. But if I move them round if I rotate them, but put them in different positions, if I have a couple of boxes where I put some things away and then every couple of months just get different things out, then it can really change the environment all the time. It makes it feel a bit new. 

You can do this with soft furnishings as well, so do it with your cushions and and even your curtains if you wanted to. 

But just change things round so that you don’t spend a fortune redecorating, it means you’re not buying new stuff all the time, but once you’ve got a bit bored of it, just swap it for something new. 

Coming away this weekend has really made me think;
How much have I got out? 

Do I really want it all out? 

Is it kind of crowding my space? 

Do I just want to have a bit of a declutter, clear some stuff away, not bin it necessarily, not get rid of it even. Some of it I might not have any use for anymore I might have passed that time where it meant something to me. But most of it might just go in boxes and then I can rotate it round, get it out at another point in time. 

Maybe have a think next time you go away, why does this hotel feel so nice? Am I able to relax here? And think about how you can then transfer that to your own home.

 

What Does Decluttering Mean?

What does decluttering mean? 

To me it is about getting rid of the excess, getting rid of the unused, and getting rid of the unnecessary stuff that we have around us.

That could be in the office or in the home. 

One of the big big mistakes people make when they’re decluttering is that they don’t declutter, they just kind of tidy up a little bit really. It’s actually a bit deeper than that and involves a little bit more effort. 

We can deal with the surface stuff, so a lot of people will just deal with the piles that they’ve got in front of them, move them around a bit, maybe find a space for a few things, but there’s a few things that will just stay in that heap – we’ll deal with them later on.

The office is a definite sign of this usually. 

But with decluttering what you have to do is you have to get in depth, so you have to get to the root of the problem. 

That usually is the storage. 

So in an office environment, I was with a lady the other day and she got quite a few heaps of stuff around and quite a lot going on. But actually where we started with the decluttering was in the back of the bottom drawer of the filing cabinet. There was a four drawer filing cabinet and we’d cleared at least three of those drawers because actually a lot of this stuff wasn’t needed and it wasn’t used. We managed to get rid of all that. 

Now what that means is that then we’ve created a space for the things that haven’t got a home, to go to. And that means that they’ve got somewhere to live. So the surface stuff that is the problem has then got a place to live. 

It’s exactly the same with the home, so I was with the lady and we were dealing with her kitchen. And again let’s start with the obvious problems, this is the area where I haven’t really got enough room and here the plastic tubs are like falling out of the cupboard. She wanted to sort of start there. But actually we dealt with the cupboard in the corner that had all their kind of party dishes, and you know the electronic things that you never use anymore, the juicer that you bought four years ago and it was a really good idea at the time. Got rid of all that stuff first. 

But then that gave us a place for things to go. 

Decluttering is more in depth than just the surface stuff. It is not tidying up. It’s getting rid of stuff, so you’ve got to get things out, in order to create the space for the stuff that you haven’t got the room for. So that is anything that is unused or unnecessary. It may be that it’s actually quite a good item, but you just don’t use it and so it’s just not useful for you. In which case it will be useful for some for somebody else. Pass these things on, but let’s get them out of our space because we don’t need them and move on to somebody else. 

Often we just have too many of things, we don’t need that volume. That tends to be the stuff that gets a bit cluttered. 

Ask yourself – when did I last use that item? 

So just a reminder, it is about getting rid of the unused, unnecessary and the excess – that’s what decluttering is all about.

 

5 Reasons to Declutter

I’d like to talk to you today about five reasons why you should declutter. 

I can come up with all sorts of reasons and ideas that I think, but actually I’m going to tell you what my customers have said. And these are things that they’ve come up with after having the experience of decluttering. 

 

The first one is saving time. 

So one of my customers said; 

“What has been created are three spaces that are now much more efficient, functional and more relaxing. No more time wasted looking for stuff we can’t find.” 

– Doug and his family.

We spent three half days just clearing out some areas in his house. They now don’t have to search everywhere for things so it’s saved them lots of time. 

 

Peace of mind. 

“I didn’t think money could buy peace of mind, but it turns out it can. We totally made the change to the space I wanted to make.” 

– Emma

That was a great wardrobe declutter that we did and ended up exactly what she wanted it to be. 

 

Life runs more smoothly now.

“Makes life run more smoothly, together we did what me and my family needed to make our lives run smoothly and help organise it in a way that makes sense.”

– Lindsey

That was a few hours in her kitchen just organising their cupboards, not in what order things should be put in the cupboards, but actually in the order that they used them. Putting the stuff that wasn’t used towards the back, the stuff they used most often at the front – making it logical for them. 

Making it work for their family. 

 

“Dealing with underlying issues.” 

– Nikki 

Nikki was able to move on after finally ridding herself of the clutter and looking at the emotional elements that have been holding her back. One of the trickiest things we did on that declutter, was a big box of cards and letters and old Valentine’s cards – all sorts of things in there, and she was able to just talk about those experiences and let go of some of those things. 

That’s the kind of thing that the clutter around us can represent, so letting go of those things can deal with all sorts of things that you maybe didn’t think were an issue, but are still there with you. 

Moving on from them is a cracking thing to do. 

 

Feeling calmer. 

“A week on from my first decluttering session with Jo and I feel like a new woman. Created a more calming and organised space. There is no stopping me now!” 

– Helen

Helens on a mission now to do it in the rest of her house. But it is, it’s calm, it’s organised, it’s not as stressful as it was before. 

So those five reasons again, from the words of the customers; 

Saving time, 

Peace of mind, 

Making life run more smoothly (being more organised), 

Dealing with underlying issues (so the things that maybe you didn’t realise were a problem) and, 

Feeling calmer. 

So there’s plenty of reasons there why you should declutter. The new year is a cracking time to get started, so why not begin and just begin on that decluttering journey. 

You might surprise yourself at how much it benefits your life.

 

5 Tips to Help Get You Started Decluttering

Today I’m going to give you five tips to help get you started decluttering in the new year. 

Tip number one schedule time to do it. 

People think that they’re going to organise things and sort things out like in amongst all the rest of life that’s going on. We are far too busy, we’ve got too much stuff going on, so you need to allocate the time to do it. 

It is not just gonna happen, and you know make sure you’ve got a good chunk of time to do it as well. People think ‘oh I’ll do that in half an hour’ and it might take a little bit longer.

Once you start getting into it, you will be able to see how long it takes you so you will have a better idea. But schedule some time, set it aside to get on with it. 

The next tip is to think differently about your stuff. 

If you always did what you’ve always done, you’re always gonna get what you’ve always got. 

The way you think about your items at the minute is how you’ve always done it. 

Now you’ve got to turn that over, you’ve got to do something a little bit different otherwise you’re just gonna get the same result. There may be many times where you’ve looked at something and thought ‘oh I’m gonna need that’ 

You’ve got to think differently about it. 

So you’ve got to challenge yourself, you’ve got to ask yourself different questions. If you find yourself saying ‘yeah I need that’ – Why? 

Ask yourself why? 

Again ask yourself why again. 

And you’ll get down to the root of why you think you really need it and then that might be able to change your mind. 

So think differently about your items. 

Tip number three is you can get help with that. 

Often we can’t see and we can’t get to the kind of reality of why we keep these things around us, so having somebody else there to help us with that can be brilliant. Because they can ask questions, they can say; ‘really? Do you really think that? Are you sure you’re gonna use that? You know when did you last use it?’ 

And they can they can sort of challenge you to question what you’re doing and why you’ve got this stuff.

Tip number four don’t leave bags lying around.

One of the greatest things that people do is they’ll sort lots of things out and then they’ll have bags lying around for ages. 

Now this mentally is not a great idea. 

When you’re allocating your time, allocate the time to get the items out as well. So if you’re gonna do a charity shop run allocate that within the time. So you sort all your stuff out and you get it to the charity shop. It’s gone, it’s done, it’s all complete, you know. 

If you’ve still got stuff hanging around, one of the dangers is you can start pulling things out as well, so that’s a bit dangerous. 

The fifth, the most important tip is to get actually started. 

You’ve just got to begin. 

A lot of people are like ‘I’ll do it tomorrow or I’ll do it next week’ 

You’ve actually got to begin. 

That’s one of the most crucial ones. 

So just a bit of a reminder; 

  • First thing you’ve got to do is schedule some time,
  • Second thing to think differently about the items that you’ve got, 
  • Third thing get help, get somebody else to ask you questions about it. 
  • Fourth thing get everything out, get it to the recycling centre, get it to the tip and get it out of the place. 
  • Fifth, get started, that’s the most important.